Exploring Boundaries Between Coach and Coachee – Bright Morning
It is important for the coach to focus on the coachee's learning style early This effort helps to build the foundation for a trust-based relationship. The coach-coachee relationship is best described as a partnership, one in commitment, while trusting the coach to be there with all necessary support and. The saying 'Relationships are the container everything else fits into' certainly applies to a coach and coachee relationship. Fundamentally, trust.
There is a huge difference between thinking for two and thinking as two.
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Time for reflection and just being alone is good for healthy relationships. It gives you time to think things through and make changes, and to dream and plan for the future. This is just as relevant in a business relationship, where the level of empowerment you give or receive is significant.
Here is an example: Two current director-level coachees have both been empowered by the same CEO. One has a meeting with the CEO once a month and is left to his own devices to manage his business, lead his team and make strategic decisions. The other is new to the role and within the vital first hundred days of a new role. He has meetings with the CEO each week, they jointly agree strategy and direction, and the director feels totally supported. The CEO supports him in understanding the political environment and the key stakeholder relationships that will be fruitful.
Here we see different levels of freedom and empowerment as appropriate. Have you asked anyone what freedom means to them?
Friendship from Support Many successful relationships start with people being friends and colleagues, and develop from there.
Lasting relationships are built on two people who are best friends and closely linked to friendship is support. Support means helping each other out and sharing responsibilities. In short, it is about thinking about the other person as well as yourself. Ask yourself what objections they might have to what you would like to do? And then take their feelings into account.Coach and Coachee
Many people think that once a successful relationship has been established, then all the hard work is over and it will just take care of itself. Working at it simply means putting effort into the relationship to keep each other happy. It is about being interested, attentive and thoughtful.
It is about turning a blind eye to the things you find annoying and focusing on the things you like. The trick is, every time you think something nice, say it.
Working at it also means having fun. We all need routine, but if you can predict what you will be doing every night of the week for the next month and the next year, then things could go horribly wrong. Have too much routine and, although it can be pleasant at times knowing what you are going to do, the rest of the time it can become dull and boring. Try to plan to do something different and take turns to choose an activity. Learning to Love Yourself or at Least Like Yourself Finally, one of the biggest challenges for many people is learning to love and respect themselves.
Coaches use every opportunity to reinforce the positive qualities and skills of the coachee through feedback and interactions.
Many people concentrate on asking why rather than how. Focusing on how helps people to concentrate on improvement, whereas why questions keep the individual in the problem and are more likely to confirm the feelings of low self-esteem. Get them to focus on their strengths, keep logs of their achievements, and celebrate what they are good at.
In any relationship it is important to recognise what you have to offer, your good points, what makes you, you. So, why are relationships so important in achieving success? Increase employee engagement Reduce turnover Before coaching one of your team members, it is important that you have a positive relationship with the person. The greater the rapport between you and your team member, the more trust the coachee will have in working with you.
As trust is built, the coaching process will progress quicker and be more effective. Reinforce to him that coaching is about growth, development, and learning by focusing on the future and not past performance. The goal will be to develop him to his full potential and ultimately open up new career opportunities.
Exploring Boundaries Between Coach and Coachee
During your coaching conversations, use these techniques to make them productive: Be curious and ask lots of questions. Curiosity builds relationships while judging will kill relationships. Curiosity demonstrates that you are interested in the coachee and builds trust in your relationship. To be truly curious, you have to set aside your own opinions and ideas, and listen to the answers to your questions in order to fully understand what the person is saying.
Paraphrase back to them to make sure you understand what he said. This demonstrates respect to the person talking. Observe the pace of their speech and speak at their pace.
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How are they sitting? If they are leaning in, you do the same. Are they being active using their hands?
Then use your hands as well. This technique, when naturally delivered, helps put the coachee at ease.