That sparkly attraction we feel at the beginning isn't always a good sign. One of the main reasons a relationship fails is due to the couple having entered into a. how hard you attempt to fix it, then it might be the time to finally move on. However, the longer a bad relationship goes on the more pain you will experience." It's never a good sign if the important people in your life are always You might even find that you have to make excuses for your partner. Making excuses is never really a good thing in any situation. But for some 2" They're Doing Something Right Now, It's Probably A Bad Time To Talk". Ashley Batz/ . As we all know, making excuses doesn't fix anything.
Excuses also may enable you to maintain effective interpersonal relationships even after some negative behavior. One of the best typologies classifies excuses into three main types Snyder, Good and Bad Excuses The most important question for most people is what makes a good excuse and what makes a bad excuse Snyder, ; Slade, How can you make good excuses and thus get out of problems, and how can you avoid bad excuses that only make matters worse?
Good excuse makers use excuses in moderation; bad excuse makers rely on excuses too often. Good excuse makers avoid blaming others, especially those they work with; bad excuse makers blame even their work colleagues.
Good excuse makers acknowledge their own responsibility for the failure by noting that they did something wrong not that they lack competence ; bad excuse makers refuse to accept any responsibility for their failures. But, at least in the United States, researchers seem to agree that the best excuses in interpersonal communication contain five elements Slade, ; Coleman, You acknowledge your responsibility. You make it clear that your misdeed will never happen again.
Some researchers include a fifth step which is really an apology. Here you would request forgiveness for what you did. And so, the most basic of all apologies is simply: In popular usage, the apology includes some admission of wrongdoing on the part of the person making the apology.
Apologies 1 help repair relationships as you can easily imagine and 2 repair the reputation of the wrongdoer.
So, if you do something wrong in your relationship, for example, an apology will help you repair the relationship with your partner and perhaps reduce the level of conflict. Are you stringing a relationship along primarily because it has benefits: Things--even relationships with benefits--can never truly satisfy Colossians 3: They are shallow tools the enemy offers convincing you to wear a mask of contentment John By faith, step out of the known to grasp the true and amazing unexplainable peace and joy Isaiah They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.
I love my dog! I love my brother! I love my pet hamster! It takes faith Hebrews Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on water, and came toward Jesus.
The Communication Blog: Excuses and Apologies
But when he saw the wind, he was afraid, and beginning to sink, cried out, "Lord, save me! Years ago, I confessed to a distant cousin that I was having doubts about my engagement. My biggest fear was that I had to stay with him simply because we had sex. Is this how you feel? Well, he reminded me that sex outside marriage is a sin.
Because you have already begun is really not an excuse to continue. Sex outside marriage brings horrible consequences to every area of life, leading ultimately to death James 1: Ask God to cast this excuse down with your sin to the depths of the ocean Isaiah I did, and God helped me move from the pit of sexual sin to the one He created specifically for me. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually sins against his own body.
We have a child together.
You have a great reason to abandon, not your kids, but the bad relationship that entangles you Hebrews As children, most of us aspired to have better lives than those who raised us. The choices YOU make affect future generations. Your present relationship portrays evidence of the needy, insecure person you are choosing to be.
Right to take a u-turn!